My Wednesday: ask Joola women of Enampore to observe a ceremony of newlyweds. They took us in, treated us like the women and put us in traditional dress head to toe. Then they sang into the sacred forest, where we shed our shoes and danced for hours, to the rhythm of wood used as drums. Our guardian? One of the brides. This is when they walked us home. They seemed happy I could keep up with them dancing.
Such an amazing honor.

Why not bike 15k then walk three hours in 93-degree heat?! I did attend a Mass entirely in Joola Bandial, spoken by 2000 people in the entire world, see where the king lived, met a princess, learned traditional house making with mud,  learned how to tap a palm tree for wine. What do the Marines do again? :-)

Yesterday, these kids were part of a big group of kids who swam with us, gave us oysters and held our hands at all times possible. A great day.

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…Bandial and Essyl, Senegal

Why not bike 15k then walk three hours in 93-degree heat?! I did attend a Mass entirely in Joola Bandial, spoken by 2000 people in the entire world, see where the king lived, met a princess, learned traditional house making with mud,  learned how to tap a palm tree for wine. What do the Marines do again? :-)

Yesterday, these kids were part of a big group of kids who swam with us, gave us oysters and held our hands at all times possible. A great day.

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…Bandial and Essyl, Senegal

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Let’s look back at the first Friends Project experience, when I touched down in sweltering Lima, Peru, on my way to the Amazon. This is how it all started! Look how far we’ve come.

April 4, 2006
I land in Lima sticky and deflated from crossing two continents, and a little shaky from sitting in the flying bird for 12 hours wondering how this is all going to pan out.

Two weeks on a research boat with scientists hunting for caiman, searching for macaws and pink river dolphins and rare monkeys, and finding a good home for $460 along the way. I have pitched in and my friends have given me money to put to good use while I’m in Peru.

Trip jitters.

It gets me every time. I also know it means that I’m doing something new, so it’s good I don’t know what to expect.

As promised, Hotel Espana sends me a driver, no additional cost. In the crowd of people and throng of placards at baggage claim, he’s holding a paper with my name on it. I am an eat-lunch-out-of-the-rucksack, sleep in stacked beds eight to a room girl, so I feel pretty fancy.

Cesar. He extends his hand, shoots me a smile and asks if I speak Spanish.

“Mas o menos. Mas menos.” It was my standard reply when I traipsed around Costa Rica last summer: More or less. Mostly less.

In other words, don’t expect much.

We step out into the Lima night, thick with heat even though it’s past ten. Somewhere the stars are up there, but the city’s constant curtain of smog and clouds shrouds the sky.

Cesar’s cab reminds me of my first car, a small putt-putter with a bit of paneling missing. Sort of like my car now.

I strap myself in tight. I know what’s coming. You never get used to the South American procession: the honking, the tailgating, the heart-stopping speeds and the careening in and out of lanes. A car nearly skims my door on the first merge.

We motor down the mobbed streets, with the ¨crazy drivers¨ (he says), the stray dogs shuffling, girls selling sweets roadside, the horns and music and guns a blaring.

Cesar warns me his English is as good as my Spanish. Despite this, we give it a go. I always land in the wrong country for the languages I know. I crucify Spanish, he throws in an English word or two, and when all else fails we mime.

It works!

We are driving through some of the poorest neighborhoods of Lima. It’s Saturday night and it seems everyone is out, shooting the breeze on the corners, playing cards, moms holding their toddlers on stoops selling pots filled with food, and young couples necking at the doorsteps. The houses are concrete squares with bars on the windows or sometimes clapboard and rubble with no doors. Everyone’s hanging out because there’s nowhere to go.

Life rolls by and I remember Belen, where I lived in northeastern Brazil studying the Amazon rainforest, living with a family and making lifelong friends. They saved me from a skinhead attack my first night out at a metal bar and we were inseparable after.

Some were studying, some were working and some were very poor. I visited Gustavo, who lived in a house like these. Two rooms, with his mom and dad and sister sleeping in the kitchen which was also the family room.

Joey’s spare room was void of all but poured concrete. We took photos of his band in there because it was pure empty space.
It was good to be on the inside, to know them, to be intimate, to be a part of their lives, and not just passing by.

In my new ride, Cesar and I talk about politics, life, poorness, many things.

Election posters are pasted up on every light pole and shuttered storefront. Most are painted right on the concrete. Alan. Ollanta. In the U.S., Peru’s candidates get minimal press. Cesar’s happy to break it down for me and I want to hear it from a resident, not some pundit who pegged Ollanta as a leftie because he wants to give land to the poor, like Chavez. And is that such a bad idea? Cesar gives me a fuller view. Ollanta’s a crazy military man. He wants to fight Chile. Alan was a bad leader; he was president before. Will they give him a new chance? The woman stands a chance too.

I get to know him, in simple sentences.

He works for Hotel Espana for 12 years. Only Espana. He picks up backpackers at the airport, drops them off. Takes them to bars and museums and brings them home late at night. It’s good to meet people from the world. He gets to learn English. He gets to travel by talking to people.

He is married and has three kids. Having a family is expensive in Peru. He points to the people in the shadows as we maneuver ’round the potholes. He lives outside Lima and is paid by the hour. Public schools are free. Which is good, but they are not so good. Families must buy their own books and pens.

The Peruvian government was corrupt. He and his friends don’t like George W. Bush. His dad? He was OK. Apparently, the first George sent down 2,000 old school buses to Peru for their transportation.

“He is nice,” Cesar said.

I peer out at Plaza de Armas bleary eyed and say farewell to Cesar at the door. I don’t have much time before my flight to Iquitos in the morning. He promises to get me after a little exploring.

I’m wowed by the hotel – an $8-a-night gem, as promised by other travelers before me, in an old mansion with a chandelier and statues and giant religious paintings and a view of the San Francisco monastery from my balcony room. I’m glad I heeded the warnings and brought my own stash of toilet paper.

In the morning, I check it out and snap some photos of the sights. Cesar’s waiting for me when I get back.

It’s another mad dash to the airport, jockeying for position on election day. People are lined up throughout the city to vote, and it’s traffic chaos. There’s construction on one street but by some miracle, our drivers have managed to make one lane into three. I suppress my urge to reach out and actually touch the guy’s shoulder in the wagon next to me.

Cesar laughs at the crazy drivers and keeps his cool. You won’t have a heart attack, driving all day, here? No, he laughs, as some other madman lays on the horn.

The traffic gods deliver us to the airport without loss of life or limb and I climb out. Cesar hands me my backpack full of patches from various countries; asks me if I’ve been all these places.

Yes, I said. I ask for his picture. He says, yes please. I take one of my new friend smiling in front of his cab. I tell him about The Friends Project as simply as I can, because I have to do it in Spanish: “I like to travel. When I do, I always meet such good people and love to explore. I want to give something back. My friends and I are not rich. We don’t have much, but together we have some. So I am able to give some on my trip.”

I give him the first $20 so he can do something nice for his family, for which daily life probably doesn’t afford. I know he has enough to live, but I’d bet he struggles for luxuries. No one here is paid that much, at least not a driver who paid all he earned on both my fares on the gas he bought during our trip.

At first I thought, it’s such a small amount. It’s not worth much. He looked very surprised and hugged and kissed me and said “Thank you, it is so nice.”

I knew from his face that the gesture, more than the money, really meant something to him and was a great surprise.

I waved and walked into the airport. The jitters disappeared. This is gonna be good.

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Our dear friend and supporter of The Friends Project, Kathleen Copehagen, handmade a little sock “monster” (he’s too cute for that title!) to serve as the school mascot in the preschool in Las Minitas.

Ronaldo and the other kiddos thought he looked like a rabbit, so they call him “Conejo.” (Co-nay-ho).

Maybe we can get a photo of him with his new friends this month!

Kris with the Tjupan mob

I finally saw “Into the Wild.” Do you know this story?

It is a true one. A college graduate who wished to seek truth and simplicity gave up his possessions, gave his money to charity, drove his junker car out into the desert and abandoned it and then set off penniless to to make it to Alaska and to make it living in the wild.

I read the book. I know how it ends.

I have often wondered why so MANY people like this movie — find the story compelling – when it is about a chosen experience that few people would ever take.

I cried. Not the choke it back kind, the sobbing, but the streaming down your face, letting it roll kind. When he decides that he is ready to go ‘back,’ he cannot. The river is too wild. He is trapped. He mistakenly chooses the wrong plants to eat and poisons himself.

He kept a diary. That’s how we know what happened to him.

A lot of people say we go on journeys – such cataclysmic journeys to find ourselves. I have thought about this a lot, and **I believe, we undertake such journeys (of all kinds) where we and step off that ledge not knowing what happens when we drop, not to find ourselves but to find how we want to truly live.**

How WE believe we are meant to live in this short life.

This guy? As crazy as it sounded, as reckless or as bad an idea it was because he didn’t really know how to do it, it is such a famous story because he did it.

He walked up to that cliff, and he leapt high and far and went for it.

I don’t know if I really ever told you how I ended up here.

Since I was a little kid, I dreamed of going to the Amazon, of living there and being an explorer, and of literally taking a trip around the world. I worked toward it for 12 years before I got on that plane.

I was meant to go in last November and spend 6 months in Nicaragua first. Moneywise, I wised up and realized I had not enough (clearly, I still did not) and stayed an extra three months.

During those months? There were many many long hours inside this head, fearful and scared. What if I am unable to make this story writing a go? What if I can’t do the tribes? What if I come back and can never find a job and am destitute and homeless?

WHAT IF?

The biggest ‘What if” was always the loss. Always. Not of things or money … I really care nothing of those in the end … but of … the few really strong ties that I make with people. What if I am lonely? What if I make this journey and give everything up — and am not content? what then?

I had some long writing sessions and talks with myself and in the end, I had to make that leap.

I jumped. High and far and have not looked back.
Know what’s funny?

NONE of the things I was so worried about have come to be. None.

I am not lonely on the road. I make friends easily and love to experience all things, and can find the fun or the good or the interesting in pretty much every single situation. I don’t even mind sliding in a pile of deer poop in front of people. When I hear music I like, I dance. In the national park, under the mountains, and in the super market.

I can not imagine myself not saying “I am a photojournalist working with tribes with disappearing and changing languages” and therefore I will make it work. I am always reeady to add news lives to this one I’m living.

Life is so … amazing … really truly amazing, and it is so, so fantastically short. On this airplane, every few hours there is a pang where I have this pang of fear of oh my God we can crash and I would die. I don’t want to die!

My friends have died. I have been to many murder and death scenes and seen dead bodies in my job and so many times, it is so sudden and unexpected. I had found my “one” once. I would have married him.I was 21.

He was there, and then he died. That was it. There is such grief there it is hard to explain. It was only this year that I could truly see his face — see him as he was and who he was — his essence.

I was finally ready to open my heart and let people, in and not protect myself from that grief again. It freed me in that last part of myself that was unable to let go and to leap. Look over that emotional ledge, which is the hardest one.
Jump.

I think people identify with this film because they admire Chris McCandless, the guy who walked off into the wilderness … because we all long to do “it” whatever that dream is, and many people don’t for many reasons.

A long time ago, an editor and mentor of mine from the newspaper business told me: “Kris, you amaze me. I like you because you are fearless.”

I had just told him that I was going into the Amazon for three weeks with scientists I had never met. I had just jumped out of a plane.

For years I have thought about that, and in the end? For me, I believe **someone who is fearless is not someone who has no fear but someone who is afraid but follows their dream or mission anyway.**

I am always the person you met “Out there,” whether in Rochester, in high school, on an overnight train in freezing Czech; the girl who got on that plane 10 months ago.

It is me, still now, with the brand new seal of “wearing my heart on my sleeve” still on.

**As we I have said many times to souls out here, life is so short. Don’t I know it. I am most afraid not of death, but to not live.**

All other things? I do without fear. Go live with the Tirikis. Walk into a Bukusu circumcision having no idea what’s happening in a hut near Uganda. Waltz into Kalgoorlie and make a little life there. Those things? They ARE who I am. I am my best self.

I am afraid of caring so deeply, and then having it ripped away; of losing it. The people or the moments, because I know how sweet it is.

AIM HIGH!

Jessenia, who is attending her second year of college

Jessenia, who is attending her second year of college

Five years ago, Jessenia and her family needed some assistance in affording high school for her.

With a Friends Project scholarship — at $35 a year — Jessenia was able to more easily afford a book bag, books, notebooks and other supplies for her goal.

Now, she’s entering her second year of COLLEGE in Leon, Nicarugua.

She and fellow Las Minitas teen Alonso Martinez are on their way to succeeding in their dreams to become the first from their mountain community to graduate from university.

The Friends Project helps them achieve this with a $300 annual scholarship each, which goes toward transportation and school supplies. We just paid the first $300 and will fundraise to pay the last $300 in June.

You know what’s awesome? Since we have a relationship with the communities we assist, we can follow Jessenia… can’t wait to see what she does after graduation.

Every weekend, they walk down 3 hours to El Sauce, where they catch a bus in the morning (sometimes they stay overnight with relatives so they can get the bus) to Leon. They attend classes all day, then take the 1.5-hour bus ride back.

They then walk 3 hours back up the mountain.

On Sunday, Alonso is up and at English class, supported by The Friends Project. He goes Monday too.

Our $300 annual college scholarships are clearly money well spent.

So little makes a huge difference.

Thank you for your support of this idea, and Alonso and Jessenia.

This is Jessenia during high school, with her supplies!

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Great news!

I apologize to all our supporters. I’ve been on the road since April and in June we opened the preschool in Las Minitas, Nicaragua after a lot of hard work and raising more then $5,000.

I’ve had trouble logging in and also spartan access to Internet at times on this world journey and have not updated this as I wish. We are going strong on Facebook and my blog ..
http://www.wanderingkris.com

This will be updated regularly now. So please visit. Often.

Our first good news: English class in Las Minitas is so successful and thought to be worthwhile to the farmers’ families, Enlace Project is hiring the teacher as part of their program and so his weekly pay will be part of his duties. We supported that class for more than a year!

Javier walked and rode a horse three hours each Sunday to teach, then stayed with a family.

585 Magazine

I am proud to announce that “585 Magazine” out of Rochester included a first-person essay about building the experience of building the preschool in Nicaragua in their current issue, out now.
Online soon,but here’s a snapshot of the page!
Coda is the concluding passage of a movement, like in a musical piece, and it’s their closing essay.
This magazine is fresh and great. So glad!

 

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I’m fresh back from Nicaragua, where the farmers and their families are enjoying the preschool that we helped them open!

WE DID IT!

I’m in town for a week before going to volunteer in Africa, so let’s celebrate the power of everyday people to make a difference and have a look at what’s been happening in Las Minitas.

I am hosting a pop-up gallery exhibition of images of the construction of The Friends Project preschool, the opening party that drew 60 people from the settlement, and photos of the community we partnered with on top of the mountain.

I will also share a few images of the Amazon adventure and beyond …

I will have coffee (20 bags) freshly toasted by the farmers in Las Minitas for sale, to help fund the English class we host in Las Minitas.

I’ll give a talk with photos at 7 PM … a pinata broken Nicaraguan-house party style will follow, with good conversation and celebration.

Light refreshments. Bring a chair if you’ve got one. This is popup!

Tell you friends. Spread the word!
WE DO THIS!

A PHOTO SLIDESHOW ONE-NIGHT SHOW TO CELEBRATE THE POWER OF EVERYDAY PEOPLE
When: Wednesday, July 23
Where: The Loft at The Falls, 5 West Main Street, Honeoye Falls
Time: 630 to 9PM
Why: We can make a difference. And did. see how!
Contact: krisdreessen@gmail.com or friendsprojectpower@gmail.com

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